1. Four Key Ideas for Managing Relationships Over Text Messages

    In our current society, many young people (and lots of us old folks;) complete more and more communication via text messaging. Although this can seem efficient and time-saving, there are a few key ideas to keep in mind when managing relationships (friends, romantic partners, family members) over text messages… 1. Don’t overtext. Texting should not be your only form of communication. If you rea…Read More

  2. 5 Maintenance Tips For Creating Healthy Extended Family Relationships

    EXTENDED FAMILY “Can’t live with them, Can’t live without them” If I were going to rank problems clients present to us in counseling, I would have to rank “extended family” in the top five. Is it possible to love and dislike at the same time? Yes, especially with our dear Siblings, Aunts/Uncles, beloved Parents and even our sweet and loving Grandparents. The following 5 MAINTENANCE TIP…Read More

  3. Feeding Your Soul and Your Family

    Often when I talk about Soul Care with clients, I use the analogy of a parent on an airplane needing to put on their oxygen mask before putting on their child’s. Soul Care is the same idea. As husbands, wives, moms and dads we need to be able to serve our families. In order to serve our families, we need have something left in the tank. Finding a weekly or even a daily activity that feeds your s…Read More

  4. How Do You Deal with Grief?

    While most of us connect grief with the death of a dream or the loss of a loved one, grief is actually part of everyday life. Any change in life stage, relationship, living space, school, job, or health status involves both gains and losses. Our culture urges us to focus on the gains while ignoring, minimizing, or denying the losses we experience, rendering them invisible. Such an invisible loss m…Read More

  5. 5 Ways to Support Your Daughter’s Healthy Body Image

    5 Ways to Support Your Daughter’s Healthy Body Image: Once the new school supplies have been purchased, the new teachers have been identified and the new classrooms have been located; let’s remember that our kids are still navigating some tough stuff in their everyday lives and in the halls of their school buildings. Although I work with females on reconstructing healthy body image on a regula…Read More

  6. Fight or Flight in Communication…

    Most of us do not enjoy having our flaws or errors pointed out by others.  Yet, its amazing how poor our approach can often be to raise an issue with others that may be uncomfortable to hear.  In fact, too often we will approach a friend or a loved one to tell them something they did wrong (or did to wrong us) and effectively demand that they acknowledge their error right that second!  This may…Read More

  7. The Marital Mirror

    I remember those first couple years of marriage and how challenging it was to have someone so close to me giving me feedback or criticism on a daily basis.  Up until that point of my life there hadn’t been anyone that knew me like my wife did/does or had the opportunity to voice their opinion of me so frequently.  It was during those first years that I coined the phrase, “The Marital Mirror.…Read More

  8. “Supposed To”

    Each of us are running our own race. We have a path set out before us that has mountains and valleys and everything in between. We are surrounded by distractions and busyness that keeps our mind racing toward what is next. Often times, the words that appear are “supposed to”. They can be used as a way to put unrealistic expectations on ourselves or others. They can also be used to describe how…Read More

  9. Waiting on Wilderness

    Different circumstances/reasons wilderness seasons exist in our lives... Disappointment Failure Death (friend or loved one or pet) Loss (job, relationship, home, possessions) Divorce Life transitions (starting school, leaving home, marriage, first child, end of childrearing, widowhood) Chronic pain Attachment wounds Head injury Infertility Car accident Trauma to a loved one Extended illness Grief …Read More

  10. Some Insights Into Self-harming Behaviors

    On a regular basis, I am presented with folks who are bewildered when faced with a loved ones self-harming behaviors.  “Why would they do this to themselves?”  “Why won’t they just stop?” “This type of behavior just doesn’t make any sense!”  These are all questions and exclamations I hear on a regular basis.  Thus, I would like to attempt to provide a bit of insight into what s…Read More