1. A Daughter-in-Law’s Dilemma

    Holidays or anniversaries of loss often surprise me with surges of emotional memories about becoming a daughter-in-law. When I began relating to the woman who became my mother-in-law, I was a teenager eager to please, longing to gain her favor.  I felt honored -- but also afraid.  What if I failed to gain her approval? Because I struggled with feeling “in the way” and “not good enough,” …Read More

  2. The Grinch

    Last Sunday our church did a wonderful teaching on the movie adaptation of the classic Dr. Suess story "The Grinch." The heart of the teaching and the story is that only kindness, forgiveness, and love can heal a broken heart.   This leads me to think more about how our world, culture, society, and communities are becoming more and more polarized and divided. We are bombarded with picking a side,…Read More

  3. Why Is Investment With Your Friends Important?

    “Anything is possible when you have the right people there to support you.” -Misty Copeland I just got back from a weekend with two other mamas, my ten-year-old daughter and their ten-year-old daughters.  (That’s 3 mamas + 3 daughters.) I had not had the opportunity to spend such extended hours with these two women, and I came away feeling enriched with additional insights, addition…Read More

  4. Thankful for the little things- like a stove…

    “If you want to find happiness, find gratitude.”— Steve Maraboli November is upon us and it is only fitting that we talk about thankfulness. I have had an interesting reminder lately of something I have taken for granted for years. You see, a little while ago, my oven made an interesting “pop” it was a signal that said it was no longer going to be with us and that my days of baking in th…Read More

  5. When I’m 64

    "When I get older, losing my hair, many years from now Will you still be sending me a Valentine, birthday greetings, bottle of wine? If I’d been out till quarter to 3, would you lock the door? Will you still need me?  Will you still feed me when I’m 64?" Beatles' Song when I'm 64 Like many in my generation, The Beatles’ songs shaped many of my early perspectives on life.  As I entered…Read More

  6. The Best Place To Be

    How often do you find yourself lost in a tornado of thoughts? Thinking about the upcoming week, next month’s travel plans, what bill is due when … an endless world of worry and what if’s. If you’re like most of us, this describes your everyday mental journey. Let’s stop the madness! The best place to be, the only place to be if we want to truly live our lives with purpose and meaning is …Read More

  7. Conflict + Resolution

    The definition of the word conflict, when it is used as a verb, means: "to be different, opposed, or contradictory: to fail to be in agreement or accord" and as a noun, it means: "fight, battle, war." Conflict in relationships is inevitable. Interpersonal Conflict is a disagreement where two people see or understand something different than one another, opposed. We can't have a relationship withou…Read More

  8. Thoughts on “The Red Shoes”: A Woman’s Need to Keep Her Footing 

    (excerpts from Women Who Run with the Wolves by Clarissa Pinkola Este´s, PhD) “Once there was a poor motherless child who had no shoes. But the child saved cloth scraps wherever she found them and over time sewed herself a pair of red shoes. They were crude but she loved them. They made her feel rich even though her days were spent gathering food in the thorny woods until far past dark. But…Read More

  9. The Struggle Over Visitation Time

    The struggle over visitation time can be intense and painful and can cause much stress amongst parents of divorce. Fighting for time with our kids can start out with good intentions then over time become a game of tug-of-war. Parents can become very controlling over “their” time and it can cause a lot of hurt and stress for children. It is incredibly difficult to have to share your kids especi…Read More

  10. Empathy, Emotional Intelligence, and Emotional Maturity

    Empathy is a key mechanism forming the template we use to evaluate our relationships.  The blueprint for this template forms as brain cells called mirror neurons develop.  These cells enable us to not only perceive but also to feel the emotions another person feels.  Like a mirror, we then reflect back to another that same emotion, through facial expressions and body language, tone of voice and…Read More