1. We Have Three Brains, Not One!

    We Have Three Brains, Not One! That's right, we actually have three brains! The Primal, Limbic and Neocortex: these three brains work together, as one, to keep us alive. Each has a very distinct role and function, working interdependently to help us survive. I first learned of the Triune Brian when I was working for a non-profit, which specialized in helping at risk youth. I was a young counselor …Read More

  2. Blended Families during the Holidays

    It is the beginning of November and holiday season is right around the corner. For the blended family, we take a deep breath and get ready for the whirlwind of events and transfers of children. Like many families, ours is more of a family bush than a tree! We have divorces and remarriages on both sides of our family which makes the holidays for our blended family even more adventurous. There are t…Read More

  3. What Is Self-Care, and Why Is It Important?

    “I feel like I’m doing everything around here.” “I feel taken advantage of.” “I don’t feel supported by you.” “All you do is nag me and tell me what I’m not doing or what I’m doing I’m doing poorly.” Can you relate to any of those sentiments? Agreeing on roles in the home is one of the most challenging things husbands and wives face, especially when they become parents. I…Read More

  4. Fighting for Authentic Friendship

    From birth through death, what humans most need is connection with other humans. Among all lifeforms, we are the most dependent upon others, not only for survival, but also for acceptance, affirmation, companionship, and love. Others’ generational habits, weaknesses, mistakes, and sins can leave bruises on our souls. These bruises complicate our perception of reality by diminishing our self-wort…Read More

  5. How to use ‘I Feel’ statements to grow your marriage

    “I feel …. you’re the problem” I laugh sometimes when I hear clients try to use “I feel” statements. I’ve even heard someone say, “I feel that you’re an idiot.” This is obviously not the intended use of the phrase “I feel.” In fact, this is just another way of insulting or hurting someone. In The Marriage Program we talk about the use of I feel statements as a way to produc…Read More

  6. Steps to Help Manage Your Anxiety

    Steps to Help Manage Your Anxiety Many people struggle with anxiety. In fact, according to the National Institute for Mental Health, 40 million Americans over the age of 18 suffer from some form of anxiety (NIMH ). 40 million! Keep in mind these are only people who have an anxiety disorder, and does not account for those who are higher functioning or who do not seek help. Those statistics are thro…Read More

  7. 5 small things that make a big difference with self-esteem

    Small things that make a big difference with self-esteem. Sit Up Straight – By sitting up straight your body takes up more space and gives you a feeling of: I’m worthy of this space (because you are). Sitting up straight also displays confidences and by adapting that posture with time you will adapt that feeling. Exercise- Whether it means taking a short walk, lifting a few weights, or trainin…Read More

  8. Four Key Ideas for Managing Relationships Over Text Messages

    In our current society, many young people (and lots of us old folks;) complete more and more communication via text messaging. Although this can seem efficient and time-saving, there are a few key ideas to keep in mind when managing relationships (friends, romantic partners, family members) over text messages… 1. Don’t overtext. Texting should not be your only form of communication. If you rea…Read More

  9. 5 Maintenance Tips For Creating Healthy Extended Family Relationships

    EXTENDED FAMILY “Can’t live with them, Can’t live without them” If I were going to rank problems clients present to us in counseling, I would have to rank “extended family” in the top five. Is it possible to love and dislike at the same time? Yes, especially with our dear Siblings, Aunts/Uncles, beloved Parents and even our sweet and loving Grandparents. The following 5 MAINTENANCE TIP…Read More

  10. Feeding Your Soul and Your Family

    Often when I talk about Soul Care with clients, I use the analogy of a parent on an airplane needing to put on their oxygen mask before putting on their child’s. Soul Care is the same idea. As husbands, wives, moms and dads we need to be able to serve our families. In order to serve our families, we need have something left in the tank. Finding a weekly or even a daily activity that feeds your s…Read More