1. Fight or Flight in Communication…

    Most of us do not enjoy having our flaws or errors pointed out by others.  Yet, its amazing how poor our approach can often be to raise an issue with others that may be uncomfortable to hear.  In fact, too often we will approach a friend or a loved one to tell them something they did wrong (or did to wrong us) and effectively demand that they acknowledge their error right that second!  This may…Read More

  2. The Marital Mirror

    I remember those first couple years of marriage and how challenging it was to have someone so close to me giving me feedback or criticism on a daily basis.  Up until that point of my life there hadn’t been anyone that knew me like my wife did/does or had the opportunity to voice their opinion of me so frequently.  It was during those first years that I coined the phrase, “The Marital Mirror.…Read More

  3. “Supposed To”

    Each of us are running our own race. We have a path set out before us that has mountains and valleys and everything in between. We are surrounded by distractions and busyness that keeps our mind racing toward what is next. Often times, the words that appear are “supposed to”. They can be used as a way to put unrealistic expectations on ourselves or others. They can also be used to describe how…Read More

  4. Waiting on Wilderness

    Different circumstances/reasons wilderness seasons exist in our lives... Disappointment Failure Death (friend or loved one or pet) Loss (job, relationship, home, possessions) Divorce Life transitions (starting school, leaving home, marriage, first child, end of childrearing, widowhood) Chronic pain Attachment wounds Head injury Infertility Car accident Trauma to a loved one Extended illness Grief …Read More

  5. Some Insights Into Self-harming Behaviors

    On a regular basis, I am presented with folks who are bewildered when faced with a loved ones self-harming behaviors.  “Why would they do this to themselves?”  “Why won’t they just stop?” “This type of behavior just doesn’t make any sense!”  These are all questions and exclamations I hear on a regular basis.  Thus, I would like to attempt to provide a bit of insight into what s…Read More

  6. A Blog on Marriage

    Underneath it all, we all just want to connect with one another. Especially with our spouse, right? We want to feel heard, be accepted and fully loved despite our flaws and shortcomings. It’s almost like our very happiness and well-being depend on whether we can connect in these ways. Yet we aren’t always the best at communicating our deepest needs or representing ourselves authentically, let …Read More

  7. Don’t Judge Yourself | The Good and Bad About Chasing Dreams

    “I want to be a movie star.” “I want to be a rock star.” “I want to be a world renown author.” “I want to be the best parent.” “I want to be the best spouse.”  Why not?  What’s wrong with having lofty dreams? The answer - maybe nothing. Maybe you should go for your dreams.  Maybe you need to stop making excuses and go for what you want. So what holds us back from going aft…Read More

  8. The Marriage Box

    THE MARRIAGE BOX AUTHOR UNKNOWN   “Most people get married believing a myth that marriage is a beautiful box full of all the things they have longed for: Companionship, Intimacy, Friendship, etc.  The truth is that marriage at the start is an empty box.  You must put something in before you can take anything out.  There is no love in marriage, love is in people.  People put love in marr…Read More

  9. 3 Reasons Why People Don’t Forgive

    Most of us agree that our lives would be better if we could forgive those that have hurt us. So why don’t we? Below are three of the most common reasons people choose not to forgive.   I don’t want to send the message that what happened was okay. Forgiving someone does not mean you are okay with what happened.  Forgiveness has little to do with the hurtful act itself.  In most situation…Read More

  10. The Power of Forgiveness

    Age, socioeconomic status and ethnicity do not seem to matter when it comes to the power of forgiveness.  We all need forgiveness, but we all seem to struggle with it.  Whether it’s our inability to accept or give it, we have a hard time dealing with forgiveness. All too often people want to “move on” from a hurtful situation without truly addressing the wound.  In fact, some people belie…Read More