1. The Best Parenting Advice I Can Give

    It wasn’t the first party I had been to. In fact, I had been to lots of parties before this one. But this is the first one I drank at. It had all the necessary ingredients for youthful adventure and stupidity: Lots of unsupervised teenagers, miles of forest, a bond fire, bb guns, and of course a keg. This was the last day of school for the year and the celebration was a classic campout party i…Read More

  2. Is There An Expiration Date On Grief?

    We look for them on food items in the grocery store, grumble about them when a good sale ends, or hurry to catch up/complete/cover ourselves when deadlines catch us unawares.   But what if the expiration date is grieving someone’s death?   Not only does our culture measure how long it should take to grieve, common advice centers around the idea that even the loss of a child or a spouse …Read More

  3. Your best Marriage

    Valentines Day has come and gone. Perhaps you had a wonderful hallmark-level evening filled with rose petals and chocolate, or perhaps yours reflected a bit more reality that may have included sick kids, busy work schedules, sports practices and total exhaustion. Maybe you think it’s just a silly holiday and you spend everyday making sure your valentine is fully appreciated or something like tha…Read More

  4. STATUS OF MEN TODAY

    I recently had the privilege of addressing a group of 40 men at a men’s retreat at which I was asked to speak on the subject of “Brotherhood”. If you are a man, married to a man, or connected to a man in your world, this might be of interest. One of my favorite things to do is to observe people: (men in particular) In malls, at restaurants, at church, with their families and in my office as …Read More

  5. Gratitude’s Core Is Practice

    Gratitude is a guide to happiness. We all have so many things we can express gratitude for when we are asked directly; but typically the things we want to change or the things we don’t like remain on the forefront of our minds. Of course this thought pattern will lead to a more negative mindset. We have all heard that practicing something is what makes you better; and two key components are bein…Read More

  6. Introduction to Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) 

    As a therapist, my approach is somewhat eclectic, however, I draw a great deal from, and have been trained in, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). CBT helps with exploring our thought life and underlying beliefs about ourselves. This aids in better understanding distressful emotions and changing undesirable recurring behaviors. There may be times when our immediate thoughts discount other possibil…Read More

  7. Why Does Taking Care Of Your Trauma Matter?

    Today, I am going to speak about trauma. It’s tricky; you know? Trauma is one of those things that people, generally, want to forget (individually and as a society). However, although it is not an easy or popular topic, it is significant.   According to sidran.org (online resource(s) for survivors and loved ones of PTSD), “an estimated 70% of adults in the US have experienced a traumatic eve…Read More

  8. Words In Balance

    Long since banished from most playgrounds, a teeter-totter is still familiar to many of us.   Two or more children sit on opposite ends of a long board attached to a triangular fulcrum.  When the board is centered, and the children’s weights are evenly balanced between the two ends, they enjoy the up and down rhythm while their teamwork and balance are both strengthened.  …Read More

  9. Don’t Judge Yourself

    “I want to be a movie star.” “I want to be a rock star.” “I want to be a world renown author.” “I want to be the best parent.” “I want to be the best spouse.” Why not? What’s wrong with having lofty dreams? The answer - maybe nothing. Maybe you should go for your dreams. Maybe you need to stop making excuses and go for what you want. So what holds us back from going after our…Read More

  10. 3 Reasons Why People Don’t Forgive

    Most of us agree that our lives would be better if we could forgive those that have hurt us. So why don’t we? Below are three of the most common reasons people choose not to forgive. 1. I don’t want to send the message that what happened was okay. Forgiving someone does not mean you are okay with what happened. Forgiveness has little to do with the hurtful act itself. In most situations, it is…Read More