1. The Importance of Compromise | Your Marriage Counselor Can Help!

    There are three points I want to address regarding compromise.  The first is the importance of self-care.  I do not recommend an individual compromise their own wellbeing just to appease their partner.  A healthy marriage requires two relatively healthy individuals.  In order to be healthy individuals we need to do things to take care of ourselves.  I refer to this practice as self-care.  If…Read More

  2. Find Joy and Contentment In All Circumstances

    “Think positive….” “choose joy…” “look on the bright side…”  “find the silver lining…” Sometimes when I hear the mantras of the power of positive thinking I am reminded of an old Saturday Night Live skit where a character (Stuart Smalley) is going through self-affirmations while looking in the mirror, saying, “I’m good enough, I’m smart enough, and doggone it, people…Read More

  3. Is Pet Therapy Right For You? | Counseling Fort Collins

    Wet noises nudging you for more attention, tail wagging when they are excited to see you; these two simple signs of affection make you feel loved and like you are the most important person in the world to them. Truly you are! I know I find comfort from my Golden Retriever Willow. I am fortunate enough to be able to bring her to work with me. In some form she like my therapist during the day, one l…Read More

  4. Rough Terrain Ahead | Navigating a Realistic Marriage

    “It’s not supposed to be this hard.” I have heard this phrase over and over again from struggling couples. What they are referring to is the gap between expectations and reality.  Few couples truly understand how much work a healthy marriage requires.  Few couples understand the challenges and work that other healthy couples have gone through in order to reach the place they are now. All t…Read More

  5. Where is Your Gaze Taking You? | Marriage Counseling Fort Collins

    I can mostly recall the scene on the ski slopes that day.  A mother and child were lying directly in front of me while they fidgeted with their ski gear.  I remember thinking, “Uh oh.  They’re right where I want to go.”  The next thing I remember is the ski patrolman telling my parents that I needed to go to the hospital. I was seven years old and just took a day playing hooky with my fa…Read More

  6. Counseling for Life Transitions – Leaving The Toxic Workplace

    Have you ever been in a job you feel is sucking the life out of you? You stay out of fear, obligation maybe, or you just feel there is nowhere else for you to work? I am coming to realize most of us have been in this situation before, and it is ultimately not healthy! The toxic environment in which you work will not be confined to the workplace. Gradually it will leach into every aspect of your li…Read More

  7. The Power behind Having Choices

    So often we get stuck in our thinking. We think a certain way about a situation and feel as though there is no other way around something. Have you ever experienced this? In another blog I addressed the cycles of thought and how they can bring unnecessary stress in our lives, particularly if the language we use with ourselves is limiting. Building on that “thought”, I am reminded of the con…Read More

  8. Helpful and Healthy New Years Tips – Let’s Be Realistic

    Let's set a few ground rules for the new year shall we? Stop putting unrealistic expectations on yourself by means of "New Years Resolutions". Goals are healthy but trying to cram them all in the month of January, and putting too much pressure on yourself is not. Remember this is a New Year, you have all year and beyond to attain these goals; the possibilities..... endless! Here are a few simple …Read More

  9. The Pain of the Holidays and the Greatest Gifts You Can Give

    I recently spoke at a local church for one of their Christmas events.  I was asked to speak about the pain of the holidays.  I was surprised and delighted at the same time. As a psychotherapist, I am entrenched in the pain of the holidays (while as a parent I still get to witness the magic!).  I have to admit, I was proud of this Ministry Director for addressing such a tough topic when it would…Read More