1. Some Insights Into Self-harming Behaviors

    On a regular basis, I am presented with folks who are bewildered when faced with a loved ones self-harming behaviors. “Why would they do this to themselves?”  “Why won’t they just stop?” “This type of behavior just doesn’t make any sense!”  These are all questions and exclamations I hear on a regular basis.  Thus, I would like to attempt to provide a bit of insight into what sel…Read More

  2. A Blog on Marriage

    Underneath it all, we all just want to connect with one another. Especially with our spouse, right? We want to feel heard, be accepted and fully loved despite our flaws and shortcomings. It’s almost like our very happiness and well-being depend on whether we can connect in these ways. Yet we aren’t always the best at communicating our deepest needs or representing ourselves authentically, let …Read More

  3. The Marriage Box

    THE MARRIAGE BOX AUTHOR UNKNOWN   “Most people get married believing a myth that marriage is a beautiful box full of all the things they have longed for: Companionship, Intimacy, Friendship, etc.  The truth is that marriage at the start is an empty box.  You must put something in before you can take anything out.  There is no love in marriage, love is in people.  People put love in marr…Read More

  4. The Power of Forgiveness

    Age, socioeconomic status and ethnicity do not seem to matter when it comes to the power of forgiveness.  We all need forgiveness, but we all seem to struggle with it.  Whether it’s our inability to accept or give it, we have a hard time dealing with forgiveness. All too often people want to “move on” from a hurtful situation without truly addressing the wound.  In fact, some people belie…Read More

  5. Grief and How to Respond to a Friend or Loved One

    In many other cultures, especially those of indigenous peoples, death and grief is a collective experience.  It is an experience that is universally painful, but in those cultures, it is so much more shared and accepted.  Yet, in our individualistic, western culture, we often are at a loss for how to respond to a grieving friend or loved one.  All too often we can resort to well-intentioned, bu…Read More

  6. Running towards something v. Running away from something

    Have you ever asked yourself if you are running towards something or running away from something?  It’s a simple question, but possibly a profound answer.  All too often, we spend our energies running out of fear.  We run aimlessly away from the thing that we believe is going to hurt us. The visual I get is one that is found in most movie chase scenes.  By the way, most of those scenes inclu…Read More

  7. When to turn the other cheek…and when not to.

    We’ve all heard the saying, “Pick your battles.”  For some of us, there is no such thing as “picking.” We battle whenever someone crosses our line in the sand.  For me, it is when I feel that my wife has treated me disrespectfully.  Whether she has done it knowingly or not, I battle when I feel wronged.  It has taken me a long time to learn that I do not have to battle every time my …Read More

  8. On Noticing…..

    Whether I’m dealing with ordinary life transitions, difficult relationships, pain, injustice impacting my family, unexpected opportunities, or the need to change, I may cope by slipping back into the patterns of a younger me.  The problem with blocking out the pain is that it numbs my ability to notice the world around me, as well as the world within.  Nature’s deep colors and complicated te…Read More

  9. Cost Of Avoiding Pain: A Story Adaptation

    What Avoiding Pain Cost the Emperor Moth Story adapted from “The Mindfulness & Acceptance Workbook for Anxiety” By John P. Forsyth, PH.D & Georg H. Eifert. PH.D “A man found a cocoon of an emperor moth.  He took it home so that he could watch the moth come out of the cocoon. On the day a small opening appeared, he sat and watched the moth for several hours, just watching as the moth…Read More

  10. The Roots of Addiction: Addiction Counseling In Fort Collins

    A lot of us don’t have to look very far to find someone we know that is an addict.  For some of us we don’t even have to look beyond ourselves.  Addiction is a very prevalent part of our world.  Addiction doesn’t have to be a bad thing, although it usually is.  If someone were addicted to serving others or addicted to following their religion or addicted to bringing about world peace add…Read More