1. Just Say No

    Text message reads: N: The Baker’s want to know if we can do dinner with them next Friday. J: Sure. Wait! We have Isaac’s football game. How about Saturday? N: No. That won’t work because we are attending the banquet. J: Friday in two weeks? N: No. We’ve committed to help at Jessica’s school dance. J: Crap. I guess tell them we’ll let them know when we can find a time. Sound familiar? …Read More

  2. Affirmation – The Sustainable Fuel

    Parents often ask me how to “motivate” their kids. They try incentives, consequences, threats, but few try affirmation. Parents tend to shy away from affirming their children out of fear of two perceived consequences. The first fear is parents believe if they affirm their children they are communicating that they are approving of everything their children are doing (and they don’t want to do…Read More