1. 3 Reasons To Turn The Other Cheek

    We’ve all heard the saying, “Pick your battles.” For some of us, there is no such thing as “picking.” We battle whenever someone crosses our line in the sand. For me, it is when I feel that my wife has treated me disrespectfully. Whether she has done it knowingly or not, I battle when I feel wronged. It has taken me a long time to learn that I do not have to battle every time my wife cro…Read More

  2. SLEEP!!! WHO NEEDS IT??

    The answer to this nagging question is really not controversial, in fact it is quite obvious that we as humans are not nocturnal creatures. On the contrary, we were created to live and function in the daylight.  I don’t know about you, but I was not born with “headlights”, just two very light sensitive blue eyes that always function better in the day light.   I am always amazed when I hear…Read More

  3. Mind Hack : The Pink Elephant

    What happens when I tell you, “Don’t think about a pink elephant.”? You probably just thought of a pink elephant. If I instead explained to you that there were two elephants in the room, one pink and one blue, and I wanted you to do your best to keep your focus on the blue, you will most likely do better. Our minds want and need something to focus on so it’s counterproductive to tell ourse…Read More

  4. ATTENTION WIVES!!!

    It might seem a bit risky in our current culture for a male therapist to “call out” females (wives) on a particular behavior, but please give me just a few minutes to explain?  Ladies, are you finding yourself frustrated by how unresponsive your husband is in your interactions? Or are you frequently disappointed with his harsh reactions when you approach him?  Here is the latest research on …Read More

  5. COMMITMENT, THE GLUE THAT HOLDS US TOGETHER IN MARRIAGE!

    It seems that so often today the idea of COMMITMENT in marriage has become somewhat of a negative term. I would like to propose commitment as something positive and rewarding. As I consider Genesis 2:24 where we read: “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become now flesh” This word “unite” is used in place of the word “cleave”…Read More

  6. Why a Grateful Brain Is a Giving One

    Karen Bridges shares some tips from this article by Christina Karns (posted in Colorado Counseling Association update, Jan. 29, 2018) Research on the positive impact of gratefulness has grown considerably in the last eight years. Gratefulness is defined as thankful appreciation for what one receives, which may be tangible or intangible. Researchers such as Dr. Martin E. P. Seligman (University of …Read More

  7. Successful Conversation

    The most commonly referenced goal I hear from couples in counseling is their desire to have better communication. It doesn’t take me long to see why they are failing -  they don’t follow the basic steps to a conversation. They argue about different subjects and don’t do a good job of understanding one another. Follow these six steps to have affective and successful conversations: Identify t…Read More

  8. MARRIED, BUT FEELING ALONE??

    MARRIED, BUT FEELING ALONE?? Sadly, this is a frequently used expression as we work with couples in counseling. Married, yes, but yet experiencing a disturbing sense of “isolation”. Isolation is the opposite of “Intimacy”, so instead of experiencing a deep connection with a spouse, too often couples have lost ground over time and end up feeling lonely, separated and solitary even while yet…Read More

  9. Blended Families during the Holidays

    It is the beginning of November and holiday season is right around the corner. For the blended family, we take a deep breath and get ready for the whirlwind of events and transfers of children. Like many families, ours is more of a family bush than a tree! We have divorces and remarriages on both sides of our family which makes the holidays for our blended family even more adventurous. There are t…Read More

  10. How to use ‘I Feel’ statements to grow your marriage

    “I feel …. you’re the problem” I laugh sometimes when I hear clients try to use “I feel” statements. I’ve even heard someone say, “I feel that you’re an idiot.” This is obviously not the intended use of the phrase “I feel.” In fact, this is just another way of insulting or hurting someone. In The Marriage Program we talk about the use of I feel statements as a way to produc…Read More