1. The Struggle Over Visitation Time

    The struggle over visitation time can be intense and painful and can cause much stress amongst parents of divorce. Fighting for time with our kids can start out with good intentions then over time become a game of tug-of-war. Parents can become very controlling over “their” time and it can cause a lot of hurt and stress for children. It is incredibly difficult to have to share your kids especi…Read More

  2. Empathy, Emotional Intelligence, and Emotional Maturity

    Empathy is a key mechanism forming the template we use to evaluate our relationships.  The blueprint for this template forms as brain cells called mirror neurons develop.  These cells enable us to not only perceive but also to feel the emotions another person feels.  Like a mirror, we then reflect back to another that same emotion, through facial expressions and body language, tone of voice and…Read More

  3. Being Present In Changing Seasons

    Each year, as the summer winds down, I usually find myself saying, "Boy the summer sure went by fast!" If you have kids, this feels especially true. But, no matter what, when the temperature cools down and we get a little less sun each day, we have to say goodbye to what just was and welcome what's to come. A change of seasons and change, in general, can draw up past disappointments and natural fe…Read More

  4. How Puberty May Affect Your Teen

    The hormonal waves are crashing.  The mood swings might cause whiplash.  The overwhelming sense that this child’s body is dictating their whole world. It’s puberty. I decided to write about some challenges girls face in puberty because I have witnessed the distress in both girls, and their families, during these erratic years of development.  Thus, I want to speak briefly about some p…Read More

  5. The Power of Words

    The school year has started and the assignments are starting to pile up. Perhaps your kids are wondering if they like their teachers or even if they can make it through some of their tough classes. It is important for us to remember the power of words. Dr. Masaru Emoto did a study on water and the impact of words. Certain words were emitted over water droplets and then photos were taken. The resul…Read More

  6. The Good Parent

    Summer break has been going for a bit now and I have suffered some parental growing pains as my teenagers have stretched their wings of independence just a bit more. The summer began with me feeling excited that my children would get some rest from such a busy school year. I had ideas of all of the fun they would have and the things we would also do as a family. It all looked so beautiful in my he…Read More

  7. Boundaries

    Boundaries are drawn all around us.  Physical boundaries are drawn for us: earth’s atmosphere, shorelines, national borders, state and county lines, city limits, property lines.  Regulated by government and mapped out in detail, they show the extent of ownership and who’s responsible for maintaining that which is owned. However, in relationships, we share the task of…Read More

  8. Bree Emery Shares How She Empowers Women To Find Their Inner Strength

    As many of you know, or can learn from reading my bio. on our website, I work with girls and women.  Because of the population I serve at Emery Counseling, there are certain topics with which I have become intimately aware.  Additionally, I am a woman myself.  I am friends with women.  I have a daughter.  I came from a woman.  I came from another woman’s body.  This sacred act of birt…Read More

  9. Reacting to the “Button Pusher”

    Back in the day, people used to write letters to each other. It would take 2-3 days or even a week before the message arrived. Knowing the time lapse that took place, I would imagine people might have taken a few moments to pen their thoughts. This would be especially true if they were angry about something. The point is, I'm thinking there was probably more thought into the letters. In the age of…Read More

  10. How To Connect With Your Teenager

    Waiting in a pickup line outside the school, I admired the sunset-tinted clouds and watched students emerging from the high school.  Noticing movement in my rearview mirror, I glanced up to see a woman pull to a stop behind me.  She hurriedly reached for one of the piles of paperstacked on her dash and began to sort.  Her son must have been watching for her, because he climbed i…Read More