1. The Dashboard Of Emotions

    This life often requires us to seek help to deal with everyday discomforts.  Being in community with others is often enough.  However, physical pain can become debilitating enough that we schedule with a physician.  We may turn to counsel for unique reasons, but what commonly prompts us to schedule is pain -- either pain for which doctors cannot find a cause or pain originating i…Read More

  2. I DON’T WANT TO LEAVE A LEGACY??

    I was reminded this weekend as my wife and I attended the memorial service of a 94-year-old long-time friend of the Emery family that LEGACY does have value.   I always intend for my blogs to instruct, challenge or encourage: This blog I hope will accomplish all three. Harold Bowyer (the 94-year-old family friend) went home to be with his heavenly Father last week and as we attended his service I…Read More

  3. Do Something You Love

    When we are under stress or experiencing difficulties one of the first things to go is caring for ourselves. We especially struggle with giving ourselves permission to do things we enjoy. It becomes difficult to love ourselves when we feel like it's not reflected in the world or relationships around us. As though our worth is dependent on our circumstances: "I can only be ok if everything/everyone…Read More

  4. How To Make Friends

    As I’m returning from lunch with one of my favorite people, a friend of mine, I’m contemplating this interesting concept: friendship.   We often spend a lot of energy, and place a lot of emphases, on romantic relationships. We often believe that finding the “right” romantic partner will make us happy and fulfilled.  However, research shows that friends are actually even more impor…Read More

  5. Joy and Happiness!

    Summer brings so many great memories and fun plans to spend time outdoors. Being outside in Colorado has always been something brings out positively in me. I wanted to challenge myself and anyone else that loves summer (or even if you don’t) to seek out intentional ways to manifest that positivity. I started with the basics of simply looking into the differences between the words joy and happy. …Read More

  6. Put it down…Look around

    It seems people have gotten lonelier than they used to be. Many studies have shown in an age where we are more connected than ever, we tend to be more lonely. Often times, when things begin to go poorly in our lives, we start thinking of ways we can self-improve. Maybe we go to the gym, start eating healthier, go to counseling, sleep more, etc. What if instead of only looking inwardly at the thing…Read More

  7. The Need to See Out

    Certain watershed memories involve the soul’s need for a larger perspective.  Watching the passing scenery through the windshield instead of a single side window, seeing the next horizon from the top of a hill, drinking in the distance visible from a building’s top floor, being stunned into awed silence by summiting a pass – these watershed vistas momentarily satiate the so…Read More

  8. Be Strong

    "Be brave strong and courageous; seek adventure and truth, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.” Joshua 1:9 My wife put this verse up in our son's bedroom. I honestly had never heard it before, but I love it. I am moved by how empowering it is to hear, and know, that God desires for us to live confidently and in the freedom of knowing he loves us. Often our past experiences or…Read More

  9. Self Harm – Help For The Parents

    Finding out your child/teen is engaging in self-harming behaviors can throw any parent into a whirlwind of emotions- fear, anger, sadness, and confusion (just to name a few).  Understanding why your child would harm their body can be very difficult.   I intend to shed a little light on the why here, but I, primarily, would like to give some feedback on how you, as the parent of someone w…Read More

  10. Is There An Expiration Date On Grief?

    We look for them on food items in the grocery store, grumble about them when a good sale ends, or hurry to catch up/complete/cover ourselves when deadlines catch us unawares.   But what if the expiration date is grieving someone’s death?   Not only does our culture measure how long it should take to grieve, common advice centers around the idea that even the loss of a child or a spouse …Read More