Have you ever been in a job you feel is sucking the life out of you? You stay out of fear, obligation maybe, or you just feel there is nowhere else for you to work? I am coming to realize most of us have been in this situation before, and it is ultimately not healthy! The toxic environment in which you work will not be confined to the workplace. Gradually it will leach into every aspect of your life. It begins with conversations to your spouse, family, and friends. Counseling with them, you complain how horrible your job is, and how you are mistreated by a co-worker. At first they are sympathetic and feel badly for you and the situation you are in. After a time, they are admittedly tired of hearing about it, and frankly you are tired of talking about it. They urge you to seek employment elsewhere, but out of fear you stay and tell yourself “it will get better.”
With a new attitude for a time it will get better, but then it gets worse. The demands pile up again, the boss is erratic again, the co-workers are bitter, and now you feel as though your whole life is being spent at your workplace. You are only there 8 to 9 hours, but your thoughts linger there the rest of your day and even your nights. Soon your hobbies are of little interest to you, your health takes a turn mentally as well as physically, you want to be alone more, and all you want to do is relax. You can’t relax when you are home because you are constantly worried about work. You live for Friday to come around again, but once the weekend hits your relief is short-lived. Now it is Sunday and tomorrow is Monday, the start of a new work week. Fear, depression, anxiety, and tense relationships have overcome the once hopeful life and career you had just a few short months ago. Slowly the environment you are in is changing you, and not for the better. You have become someone others do not recognize, nor yourself.
Miracles do happen and a new opportunity will come your way. It may not happen while you are at your current workplace, but you have to believe that opportunity is right around the corner. Don’t just wait for it to come your way, search for it. The most anxious part of leaving a job is “fear of the unknown.” What else is out there? What about the bills I have to pay? Put fear aside, be courageous and it may be time to give that toxic workplace the old heave-ho; quit! After trying to seek resolution from your superior’s numerous times, you have to realize your work environment is not going to change, your co-workers aren’t going to change, you need to make the change. With that said you can still be gracious and respectful to your boss and co-workers during this transition, but once you have walked out that door for the last time you will feel huge relief. You will feel all those burdens, anxiety, and tension roll of your back. Please be sure to leave that stuff in the parking lot before you go;-). Isn’t your health, well-being, and your relationships worth so much more than that job? Yes! You know what? Your spouse, your family, and your friends will be there waiting for you. They are supportive and excited about your new endeavors. They will all breathe a sigh of relief too and be glad to have you back! You will be glad to have your life back!
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