1. STATUS OF MEN TODAY

    I recently had the privilege of addressing a group of 40 men at a men’s retreat at which I was asked to speak on the subject of “Brotherhood”. If you are a man, married to a man, or connected to a man in your world, this might be of interest. One of my favorite things to do is to observe people: (men in particular) In malls, at restaurants, at church, with their families and in my office as …Read More

  2. 3 Reasons Why People Don’t Forgive

    Most of us agree that our lives would be better if we could forgive those that have hurt us. So why don’t we? Below are three of the most common reasons people choose not to forgive. 1. I don’t want to send the message that what happened was okay. Forgiving someone does not mean you are okay with what happened. Forgiveness has little to do with the hurtful act itself. In most situations, it is…Read More

  3. ‘Tis The Season For Taking A Deep Breath

    “You have listened to fears, child,” said Aslan. “Come, let me breathe on you. Forget them. Are you brave again?” C.S. Lewis, Prince Caspian I recently came across this quote and I lost my breath a little. I was startled by the truth that fear doesn’t stand a chance against Alsan. At the same time I realized how fear plays a significant role in ours lives. It can especially get…Read More

  4. 3 Reasons To Turn The Other Cheek

    We’ve all heard the saying, “Pick your battles.” For some of us, there is no such thing as “picking.” We battle whenever someone crosses our line in the sand. For me, it is when I feel that my wife has treated me disrespectfully. Whether she has done it knowingly or not, I battle when I feel wronged. It has taken me a long time to learn that I do not have to battle every time my wife cro…Read More

  5. How Do We Love Each Other Better

    How do we love each other better? Whether it be a spouse, a friend, or a stranger; I have thought into this question many times and believe a huge part of this is availability is the quality of being able to be used or obtained. Below are some simple tips to improve our ability to be more available. 1.    Turn off when you are off Keep technology away from you if you are not needing it. Figurat…Read More

  6. Summer is here! Get your garden on!

    The summer season brings many opportunities to get outside and be active. It also isn’t too late to start a garden! There is nothing quite as calming and peaceful as gardening. If you have ever gardened before, you know the feeling of just being present with what needs to be tended to that day. There is just something miraculous about getting our hands in the dirt and actively participating with…Read More

  7. We Have Three Brains, Not One!

    That's right, we actually have three brains! The Primal, Limbic and Neocortex: these three brains work together, as one, to keep us alive. Each has a very distinct role and function, working interdependently to help us survive. I first learned of the Triune Brian when I was working for a non-profit, which specialized in helping at risk youth. I was a young counselor and became overwhelmed by how s…Read More

  8. What Is Self-Care, and Why Is It Important?

    “I feel like I’m doing everything around here.” “I feel taken advantage of.” “I don’t feel supported by you.” “All you do is nag me and tell me what I’m not doing or what I’m doing I’m doing poorly.” Can you relate to any of those sentiments? Agreeing on roles in the home is one of the most challenging things husbands and wives face, especially when they become parents. I…Read More

  9. How to use ‘I Feel’ statements to grow your marriage

    “I feel …. you’re the problem” I laugh sometimes when I hear clients try to use “I feel” statements. I’ve even heard someone say, “I feel that you’re an idiot.” This is obviously not the intended use of the phrase “I feel.” In fact, this is just another way of insulting or hurting someone. In The Marriage Program we talk about the use of I feel statements as a way to produc…Read More

  10. 5 Maintenance Tips For Creating Healthy Extended Family Relationships

    EXTENDED FAMILY “Can’t live with them, Can’t live without them” If I were going to rank problems clients present to us in counseling, I would have to rank “extended family” in the top five. Is it possible to love and dislike at the same time? Yes, especially with our dear Siblings, Aunts/Uncles, beloved Parents and even our sweet and loving Grandparents. The following 5 MAINTENANCE TIP…Read More