1. The Gift of Limits

    It’s a long story of which I will not write about now, but I got back in to playing football. For two full seasons I have played semi-pro/minor league football. Until recently, I have been fortunate to have never suffered a severe physical injury. I naturally took for granted seemingly unlimited possibilities of the human body. However, the inevitable happened, I got injured. When I discove…Read More

  2. The Marital Mirror

    I remember those first couple years of marriage and how challenging it was to have someone so close to me giving me feedback or criticism on a daily basis.  Up until that point of my life there hadn’t been anyone that knew me like my wife did/does or had the opportunity to voice their opinion of me so frequently.  It was during those first years that I coined the phrase, “The Marital Mirror.…Read More

  3. “Supposed To”

    Each of us are running our own race. We have a path set out before us that has mountains and valleys and everything in between. We are surrounded by distractions and busyness that keeps our mind racing toward what is next. Often times, the words that appear are “supposed to”. They can be used as a way to put unrealistic expectations on ourselves or others. They can also be used to describe how…Read More

  4. Some Insights Into Self-harming Behaviors

    On a regular basis, I am presented with folks who are bewildered when faced with a loved ones self-harming behaviors. “Why would they do this to themselves?”  “Why won’t they just stop?” “This type of behavior just doesn’t make any sense!”  These are all questions and exclamations I hear on a regular basis.  Thus, I would like to attempt to provide a bit of insight into what sel…Read More

  5. The Pain of the Holidays and the Greatest Gifts You Can Give

    I recently spoke at a local church for one of their Christmas events.  I was asked to speak about the pain of the holidays.  I was surprised and delighted at the same time. As a psychotherapist, I am entrenched in the pain of the holidays (while as a parent I still get to witness the magic!).  I have to admit, I was proud of this Ministry Director for addressing such a tough topic when it would…Read More

  6. Just Say No

    Text message reads: N: The Baker’s want to know if we can do dinner with them next Friday. J: Sure. Wait! We have Isaac’s football game. How about Saturday? N: No. That won’t work because we are attending the banquet. J: Friday in two weeks? N: No. We’ve committed to help at Jessica’s school dance. J: Crap. I guess tell them we’ll let them know when we can find a time. Sound familiar? …Read More