1. Mind Hack : The Pink Elephant

    What happens when I tell you, “Don’t think about a pink elephant.”? You probably just thought of a pink elephant. If I instead explained to you that there were two elephants in the room, one pink and one blue, and I wanted you to do your best to keep your focus on the blue, you will most likely do better. Our minds want and need something to focus on so it’s counterproductive to tell ourse…Read More

  2. ATTENTION WIVES!!!

    It might seem a bit risky in our current culture for a male therapist to “call out” females (wives) on a particular behavior, but please give me just a few minutes to explain?  Ladies, are you finding yourself frustrated by how unresponsive your husband is in your interactions? Or are you frequently disappointed with his harsh reactions when you approach him?  Here is the latest research on …Read More

  3. COMMITMENT, THE GLUE THAT HOLDS US TOGETHER IN MARRIAGE!

    It seems that so often today the idea of COMMITMENT in marriage has become somewhat of a negative term. I would like to propose commitment as something positive and rewarding. As I consider Genesis 2:24 where we read: “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become now flesh” This word “unite” is used in place of the word “cleave”…Read More

  4. 6 Basic Principles For Making Good Decisions

    Life is full of decisions and it can feel overwhelming at times based on the sheer volume of choices available and decisions to be made… According to a Cornell University study we make around 226 different decisions per day just about food alone! And the number of choices available to us for both major and minor decisions has never been greater. Whether we’re deciding how to be entertained or …Read More

  5. Blended Families during the Holidays

    It is the beginning of November and holiday season is right around the corner. For the blended family, we take a deep breath and get ready for the whirlwind of events and transfers of children. Like many families, ours is more of a family bush than a tree! We have divorces and remarriages on both sides of our family which makes the holidays for our blended family even more adventurous. There are t…Read More

  6. Fighting for Authentic Friendship

    From birth through death, what humans most need is connection with other humans. Among all lifeforms, we are the most dependent upon others, not only for survival, but also for acceptance, affirmation, companionship, and love. Others’ generational habits, weaknesses, mistakes, and sins can leave bruises on our souls. These bruises complicate our perception of reality by diminishing our self-wort…Read More

  7. “Supposed To”

    Each of us are running our own race. We have a path set out before us that has mountains and valleys and everything in between. We are surrounded by distractions and busyness that keeps our mind racing toward what is next. Often times, the words that appear are “supposed to”. They can be used as a way to put unrealistic expectations on ourselves or others. They can also be used to describe how…Read More

  8. A Blog on Marriage

    Underneath it all, we all just want to connect with one another. Especially with our spouse, right? We want to feel heard, be accepted and fully loved despite our flaws and shortcomings. It’s almost like our very happiness and well-being depend on whether we can connect in these ways. Yet we aren’t always the best at communicating our deepest needs or representing ourselves authentically, let …Read More

  9. The Marriage Box

    THE MARRIAGE BOX AUTHOR UNKNOWN   “Most people get married believing a myth that marriage is a beautiful box full of all the things they have longed for: Companionship, Intimacy, Friendship, etc.  The truth is that marriage at the start is an empty box.  You must put something in before you can take anything out.  There is no love in marriage, love is in people.  People put love in marr…Read More

  10. 3 Reasons Why People Don’t Forgive

    Most of us agree that our lives would be better if we could forgive those that have hurt us. So why don’t we? Below are three of the most common reasons people choose not to forgive.   I don’t want to send the message that what happened was okay. Forgiving someone does not mean you are okay with what happened.  Forgiveness has little to do with the hurtful act itself.  In most situation…Read More