1. Why Does Taking Care Of Your Trauma Matter?

    Today, I am going to speak about trauma. It’s tricky; you know? Trauma is one of those things that people, generally, want to forget (individually and as a society). However, although it is not an easy or popular topic, it is significant.   According to sidran.org (online resource(s) for survivors and loved ones of PTSD), “an estimated 70% of adults in the US have experienced a traumatic eve…Read More

  2. Don’t Judge Yourself

    “I want to be a movie star.” “I want to be a rock star.” “I want to be a world renown author.” “I want to be the best parent.” “I want to be the best spouse.” Why not? What’s wrong with having lofty dreams? The answer - maybe nothing. Maybe you should go for your dreams. Maybe you need to stop making excuses and go for what you want. So what holds us back from going after our…Read More

  3. The Dance of the Family Members – Do you know the steps?

    Family culture is an interesting dance. It is one we usually do not realize we are participating in. We have learned the steps over many years and our family can usually be in sync. When additions to the family come, the routine is disrupted and can cause some friction. In Zig Ziglar’s ham story, he describes how the bride in a newly married couple cut off the end of the ham before baking it. He…Read More

  4. 3 Reasons To Turn The Other Cheek

    We’ve all heard the saying, “Pick your battles.” For some of us, there is no such thing as “picking.” We battle whenever someone crosses our line in the sand. For me, it is when I feel that my wife has treated me disrespectfully. Whether she has done it knowingly or not, I battle when I feel wronged. It has taken me a long time to learn that I do not have to battle every time my wife cro…Read More

  5. The Lost Art of Listening

    If you’re like me, I have an uncanny ability to listen to so many things at the same time I don’t really hear any of them. Between the music, the phone, the TV, the computer and whatever voices I have in my head (the healthy kind, I can barely focus on another person. I notice it most when I ride my bike without my music. I hear the birds, I hear kids playing, I am much more aware of where the…Read More

  6. Mind Hack : The Pink Elephant

    What happens when I tell you, “Don’t think about a pink elephant.”? You probably just thought of a pink elephant. If I instead explained to you that there were two elephants in the room, one pink and one blue, and I wanted you to do your best to keep your focus on the blue, you will most likely do better. Our minds want and need something to focus on so it’s counterproductive to tell ourse…Read More

  7. It’s Back To School Time! You know what that means? NO MORE SLEEPING IN! 

    This provides us the opportunity to talk about the importance of sleep hygiene. Sleep has become a problem of epidemic proportions in our society. I can not tell you how many people tell me that they have troubles falling asleep, staying asleep and feeling rested. Why is this so difficult? There are a few culprits for sure. Although I will always admire Thomas Edison for inventing the light bulb, …Read More

  8. A Father, a Brother and a Son

    Are you connected? No, not connected to the internet, your phone, computer or T.V. But are you connected to the relationships that matter most in your life? Are you connected to the relationships that you need most in life? Our culture has been thrust into disconnection from relationships and connection with inanimate objects. On a daily basis; how many of us get lost staring at our phones…Read More

  9. ATTENTION WIVES!!!

    It might seem a bit risky in our current culture for a male therapist to “call out” females (wives) on a particular behavior, but please give me just a few minutes to explain?  Ladies, are you finding yourself frustrated by how unresponsive your husband is in your interactions? Or are you frequently disappointed with his harsh reactions when you approach him?  Here is the latest research on …Read More

  10. 3 Helpful Tips When Dealing with Anniversaries of a Loss

    Endings…Anniversary of a Loss Despite spectacular rainstorms, scented trees, and rainbows of flowers, joy eludes me. My heart aches and I am oversensitive to heat one day, and cold the next. Delays or inattentive drivers activate my body’s impatience. I tire easily and can’t seem to make progress in the things I’m trying to learn. Though I’m not yet conscious of it, my body is rememberin…Read More