1. 3 Reasons To Turn The Other Cheek

    We’ve all heard the saying, “Pick your battles.” For some of us, there is no such thing as “picking.” We battle whenever someone crosses our line in the sand. For me, it is when I feel that my wife has treated me disrespectfully. Whether she has done it knowingly or not, I battle when I feel wronged. It has taken me a long time to learn that I do not have to battle every time my wife cro…Read More

  2. The Lost Art of Listening

    If you’re like me, I have an uncanny ability to listen to so many things at the same time I don’t really hear any of them. Between the music, the phone, the TV, the computer and whatever voices I have in my head (the healthy kind, I can barely focus on another person. I notice it most when I ride my bike without my music. I hear the birds, I hear kids playing, I am much more aware of where the…Read More

  3. The Gift of Limits

    It’s a long story of which I will not write about now, but I got back in to playing football. For two full seasons I have played semi-pro/minor league football. Until recently, I have been fortunate to have never suffered a severe physical injury. I naturally took for granted seemingly unlimited possibilities of the human body. However, the inevitable happened, I got injured. When I discove…Read More

  4. 7 Ways To Help Yourself Grow

    August was probably my least favorite month when I was a child. I was bored with finding ways to entertain my little sisters. I missed my friends from school. I hungered for more time to read. I feared for my dad’s safety when he was away fighting forest fires. I grieved over the places I wished we’d explored. I worried over finding friends again when we or they had moved… again. My disconte…Read More

  5. It’s Back To School Time! You know what that means? NO MORE SLEEPING IN! 

    This provides us the opportunity to talk about the importance of sleep hygiene. Sleep has become a problem of epidemic proportions in our society. I can not tell you how many people tell me that they have troubles falling asleep, staying asleep and feeling rested. Why is this so difficult? There are a few culprits for sure. Although I will always admire Thomas Edison for inventing the light bulb, …Read More

  6. A Father, a Brother and a Son.

    Are you connected? No, not connected to the internet, your phone, computer or T.V. But are you connected to the relationships that matter most in your life? Are you connected to the relationships that you need most in life? Our culture has been thrust into disconnection from relationships and connection with inanimate objects. On a daily basis; how many of us get lost staring at our phones…Read More

  7. ATTENTION WIVES!!!

    It might seem a bit risky in our current culture for a male therapist to “call out” females (wives) on a particular behavior, but please give me just a few minutes to explain?  Ladies, are you finding yourself frustrated by how unresponsive your husband is in your interactions? Or are you frequently disappointed with his harsh reactions when you approach him?  Here is the latest research on …Read More

  8. Is My Teen Even Listening to Me?!

    Is My Teen Even Listening to Me?! Have you ever felt like you’re talking into a wind tunnel or as though you’re talking to yourself when, in fact, you’re trying to have a conversation with your teenager? Do you ever feel like they’d rather be anywhere else than be standing in front of you or otherwise being in the same room? If so, you are not alone. And welcome to the season of raising ad…Read More

  9. Secure your Oxygen Mask First

    For those that have traveled via air, you have experienced the instructions at the beginning of the flight. Make sure your seat belt is tightly fastened, and if in the event of loss of pressure in the cabin, make sure you put on your oxygen mask before helping others. In that split second, I wonder how many women might give in to the temptation to put on the mask of all her family members prior to…Read More

  10. Successful Conversation

    The most commonly referenced goal I hear from couples in counseling is their desire to have better communication. It doesn’t take me long to see why they are failing -  they don’t follow the basic steps to a conversation. They argue about different subjects and don’t do a good job of understanding one another. Follow these six steps to have affective and successful conversations: Identify t…Read More