Certain watershed memories involve the soul’s need for a larger perspective. Watching the passing scenery through the windshield instead of a single side window, seeing the next horizon from the top of a hill, drinking in the distance visible from a building’s top floor, being stunned into awed silence by summiting a pass – these watershed vistas momentarily satiate the soul’s need to see out.
At times, however, we find ourselves looking at life with limited vision. What pieces form this box that traps the soul?
Wall 1 could be an obligation to match the preferences of authority figures in our lives. (What would my parents say?)
Wall 2 might be the expectations of those whose approval I seek. (What about my friends?)
Wall 3 involves worry about the needs of other generations. (What would my children say?)
Wall 4 may be a perceived duty to help others. (What do those in my community think?)
The floor of the box often consists of our inadequacy in the face of life’s challenges. (Do I have what it takes to keepstanding?)
The lid is often fear of some sort. (What keeps me inside the box?)
When our primary thoughts circle around “I want to be safe,” self-protective fear ex
When our decisions are driven by obligation, expectations, and duty to others, thoughts of “I need to be right” create a life ofjudgment. This inner life of suspicion and judgment not onlypushes away the very people with whom we long to be close, it also blackens our self-worth with condemnation.
However, we have options! When the curiosity of “I want to know what’s true” becomes our motivation,
If this change in perspective appeals to you, here are some ideas for climbing the walls of the box.