1. Fighting for Authentic Friendship

    From birth through death, what humans most need is connection with other humans. Among all lifeforms, we are the most dependent upon others, not only for survival, but also for acceptance, affirmation, companionship, and love. Others’ generational habits, weaknesses, mistakes, and sins can leave bruises on our souls. These bruises complicate our perception of reality by diminishing our self-wort…Read More

  2. How to use ‘I Feel’ statements to grow your marriage

    “I feel …. you’re the problem” I laugh sometimes when I hear clients try to use “I feel” statements. I’ve even heard someone say, “I feel that you’re an idiot.” This is obviously not the intended use of the phrase “I feel.” In fact, this is just another way of insulting or hurting someone. In The Marriage Program we talk about the use of I feel statements as a way to produc…Read More

  3. Steps to Help Manage Your Anxiety

    Steps to Help Manage Your Anxiety Many people struggle with anxiety. In fact, according to the National Institute for Mental Health, 40 million Americans over the age of 18 suffer from some form of anxiety (NIMH ). 40 million! Keep in mind these are only people who have an anxiety disorder, and does not account for those who are higher functioning or who do not seek help. Those statistics are thro…Read More

  4. 5 small things that make a big difference with self-esteem

    Small things that make a big difference with self-esteem. Sit Up Straight – By sitting up straight your body takes up more space and gives you a feeling of: I’m worthy of this space (because you are). Sitting up straight also displays confidences and by adapting that posture with time you will adapt that feeling. Exercise- Whether it means taking a short walk, lifting a few weights, or trainin…Read More

  5. Four Key Ideas for Managing Relationships Over Text Messages

    In our current society, many young people (and lots of us old folks;) complete more and more communication via text messaging. Although this can seem efficient and time-saving, there are a few key ideas to keep in mind when managing relationships (friends, romantic partners, family members) over text messages… 1. Don’t overtext. Texting should not be your only form of communication. If you rea…Read More

  6. 5 Maintenance Tips For Creating Healthy Extended Family Relationships

    EXTENDED FAMILY “Can’t live with them, Can’t live without them” If I were going to rank problems clients present to us in counseling, I would have to rank “extended family” in the top five. Is it possible to love and dislike at the same time? Yes, especially with our dear Siblings, Aunts/Uncles, beloved Parents and even our sweet and loving Grandparents. The following 5 MAINTENANCE TIP…Read More

  7. Feeding Your Soul and Your Family

    Often when I talk about Soul Care with clients, I use the analogy of a parent on an airplane needing to put on their oxygen mask before putting on their child’s. Soul Care is the same idea. As husbands, wives, moms and dads we need to be able to serve our families. In order to serve our families, we need have something left in the tank. Finding a weekly or even a daily activity that feeds your s…Read More

  8. How Do You Deal with Grief?

    While most of us connect grief with the death of a dream or the loss of a loved one, grief is actually part of everyday life. Any change in life stage, relationship, living space, school, job, or health status involves both gains and losses. Our culture urges us to focus on the gains while ignoring, minimizing, or denying the losses we experience, rendering them invisible. Such an invisible loss m…Read More

  9. 5 Ways to Support Your Daughter’s Healthy Body Image

    5 Ways to Support Your Daughter’s Healthy Body Image: Once the new school supplies have been purchased, the new teachers have been identified and the new classrooms have been located; let’s remember that our kids are still navigating some tough stuff in their everyday lives and in the halls of their school buildings. Although I work with females on reconstructing healthy body image on a regula…Read More

  10. Expectations vs. Acceptance

    I recently went on a backpacking trip with my dad and brother. We had talked about the trip for the last six months. The trip was a celebration of my dad’s 60th birthday. We had all the necessary ingredients for a successful trip: maps, fly rods, tobacco pipes and some of Jack’s finest bourbon. Well, the trip did not have the start I had expected. We had to change our route the day of because …Read More