1. Running towards something v. Running away from something

    Have you ever asked yourself if you are running towards something or running away from something?  It’s a simple question, but possibly a profound answer.  All too often, we spend our energies running out of fear.  We run aimlessly away from the thing that we believe is going to hurt us. The visual I get is one that is found in most movie chase scenes.  By the way, most of those scenes inclu…Read More

  2. When to turn the other cheek…and when not to.

    We’ve all heard the saying, “Pick your battles.”  For some of us, there is no such thing as “picking.” We battle whenever someone crosses our line in the sand.  For me, it is when I feel that my wife has treated me disrespectfully.  Whether she has done it knowingly or not, I battle when I feel wronged.  It has taken me a long time to learn that I do not have to battle every time my …Read More

  3. On Noticing…..

    Whether I’m dealing with ordinary life transitions, difficult relationships, pain, injustice impacting my family, unexpected opportunities, or the need to change, I may cope by slipping back into the patterns of a younger me.  The problem with blocking out the pain is that it numbs my ability to notice the world around me, as well as the world within.  Nature’s deep colors and complicated te…Read More

  4. Cost Of Avoiding Pain: A Story Adaptation

    What Avoiding Pain Cost the Emperor Moth Story adapted from “The Mindfulness & Acceptance Workbook for Anxiety” By John P. Forsyth, PH.D & Georg H. Eifert. PH.D “A man found a cocoon of an emperor moth.  He took it home so that he could watch the moth come out of the cocoon. On the day a small opening appeared, he sat and watched the moth for several hours, just watching as the moth…Read More

  5. The Roots of Addiction: Addiction Counseling In Fort Collins

    A lot of us don’t have to look very far to find someone we know that is an addict.  For some of us we don’t even have to look beyond ourselves.  Addiction is a very prevalent part of our world.  Addiction doesn’t have to be a bad thing, although it usually is.  If someone were addicted to serving others or addicted to following their religion or addicted to bringing about world peace add…Read More

  6. You Survived Being a Teen – Now What?

    You’re in your 20’s. You have survived your teenage years and now you’re at the age where you always thought things would finally click for you. Finally, right? But as you look around, nothing has really panned out the way you had hoped it would. Nothing feels all that familiar. You notice how happy most of your friends are as they chatter about their new relationships or engagements. Or may…Read More

  7. Spirit of Cooperation vs. Division in Marriage

    As a therapist I often encounter couples in conflict and as a result, they have grown quite frustrated and weary. Don’t get me wrong, everyone has conflict! Did I say “Everyone”?  Yes I did, but many couples are able to work through their differences and ultimately find resolution without wounding, scaring or devaluing one another. By the way, when we “fight” “discuss”, “argue” …Read More

  8. Constant Change in Life | Counseling for Life Transistions

    Similar to a caterpillar changing into a butterfly, humans have a psychological metamorphosis when life goes through major changes. Sometimes these changes are planned and we know they are coming and other times they hit us out of nowhere. For me the most impactful one in my life so far was transitioning from being a student, to not being a student. At the end of college many are single, ambitious…Read More

  9. The Importance of Compromise | Your Marriage Counselor Can Help!

    There are three points I want to address regarding compromise.  The first is the importance of self-care.  I do not recommend an individual compromise their own wellbeing just to appease their partner.  A healthy marriage requires two relatively healthy individuals.  In order to be healthy individuals we need to do things to take care of ourselves.  I refer to this practice as self-care.  If…Read More

  10. Find Joy and Contentment In All Circumstances

    “Think positive….” “choose joy…” “look on the bright side…”  “find the silver lining…” Sometimes when I hear the mantras of the power of positive thinking I am reminded of an old Saturday Night Live skit where a character (Stuart Smalley) is going through self-affirmations while looking in the mirror, saying, “I’m good enough, I’m smart enough, and doggone it, people…Read More