1. Mind Hack : The Pink Elephant

    What happens when I tell you, “Don’t think about a pink elephant.”? You probably just thought of a pink elephant. If I instead explained to you that there were two elephants in the room, one pink and one blue, and I wanted you to do your best to keep your focus on the blue, you will most likely do better. Our minds want and need something to focus on so it’s counterproductive to tell ourse…Read More

  2. There is still time…

    I heard something very interesting the other day. Did you know James Michener did not start writing books until he was 40 years old? Laura Ingalls Wilder did not become successful as a writer until she was 60. The actor Samuel L Jackson became successful at 43, and Morgan Freeman at 52. Did you know that even if you started exercising at 80 years old, you could still benefit from it? Studies prove…Read More

  3. A Father, a Brother and a Son.

    Are you connected? No, not connected to the internet, your phone, computer or T.V. But are you connected to the relationships that matter most in your life? Are you connected to the relationships that you need most in life? Our culture has been thrust into disconnection from relationships and connection with inanimate objects. On a daily basis; how many of us get lost staring at our phones…Read More

  4. What is Self-Compassion and Why Should I Practice It?

    We have all heard about the importance of cultivating compassion for others (“Do to others as you would have them do to you”), but what about self-compassion? Compassion is a feeling of deep sympathy and sorrow for another who is stricken by misfortune, accompanied by a strong desire to alleviate the suffering. Self-compassion is turning that lens toward oneself (rather than minimizing one’s…Read More

  5. Successful Conversation

    The most commonly referenced goal I hear from couples in counseling is their desire to have better communication. It doesn’t take me long to see why they are failing -  they don’t follow the basic steps to a conversation. They argue about different subjects and don’t do a good job of understanding one another. Follow these six steps to have affective and successful conversations: Identify t…Read More

  6. We Have Three Brains, Not One!

    We Have Three Brains, Not One! That's right, we actually have three brains! The Primal, Limbic and Neocortex: these three brains work together, as one, to keep us alive. Each has a very distinct role and function, working interdependently to help us survive. I first learned of the Triune Brian when I was working for a non-profit, which specialized in helping at risk youth. I was a young counselor …Read More

  7. What Is Self-Care, and Why Is It Important?

    “I feel like I’m doing everything around here.” “I feel taken advantage of.” “I don’t feel supported by you.” “All you do is nag me and tell me what I’m not doing or what I’m doing I’m doing poorly.” Can you relate to any of those sentiments? Agreeing on roles in the home is one of the most challenging things husbands and wives face, especially when they become parents. I…Read More

  8. 5 Ways to Support Your Daughter’s Healthy Body Image

    5 Ways to Support Your Daughter’s Healthy Body Image: Once the new school supplies have been purchased, the new teachers have been identified and the new classrooms have been located; let’s remember that our kids are still navigating some tough stuff in their everyday lives and in the halls of their school buildings. Although I work with females on reconstructing healthy body image on a regula…Read More

  9. The Marital Mirror

    I remember those first couple years of marriage and how challenging it was to have someone so close to me giving me feedback or criticism on a daily basis.  Up until that point of my life there hadn’t been anyone that knew me like my wife did/does or had the opportunity to voice their opinion of me so frequently.  It was during those first years that I coined the phrase, “The Marital Mirror.…Read More

  10. “Supposed To”

    Each of us are running our own race. We have a path set out before us that has mountains and valleys and everything in between. We are surrounded by distractions and busyness that keeps our mind racing toward what is next. Often times, the words that appear are “supposed to”. They can be used as a way to put unrealistic expectations on ourselves or others. They can also be used to describe how…Read More