1. The Dashboard Of Emotions

    This life often requires us to seek help to deal with everyday discomforts.  Being in community with others is often enough.  However, physical pain can become debilitating enough that we schedule with a physician.  We may turn to counsel for unique reasons, but what commonly prompts us to schedule is pain -- either pain for which doctors cannot find a cause or pain originating i…Read More

  2. Boundaries

    Boundaries are drawn all around us.  Physical boundaries are drawn for us: earth’s atmosphere, shorelines, national borders, state and county lines, city limits, property lines.  Regulated by government and mapped out in detail, they show the extent of ownership and who’s responsible for maintaining that which is owned. However, in relationships, we share the task of…Read More

  3. The Need to See Out

    Certain watershed memories involve the soul’s need for a larger perspective.  Watching the passing scenery through the windshield instead of a single side window, seeing the next horizon from the top of a hill, drinking in the distance visible from a building’s top floor, being stunned into awed silence by summiting a pass – these watershed vistas momentarily satiate the so…Read More

  4. How To Connect With Your Teenager

    Waiting in a pickup line outside the school, I admired the sunset-tinted clouds and watched students emerging from the high school.  Noticing movement in my rearview mirror, I glanced up to see a woman pull to a stop behind me.  She hurriedly reached for one of the piles of paperstacked on her dash and began to sort.  Her son must have been watching for her, because he climbed i…Read More

  5. Words In Balance

    Long since banished from most playgrounds, a teeter-totter is still familiar to many of us.   Two or more children sit on opposite ends of a long board attached to a triangular fulcrum.  When the board is centered, and the children’s weights are evenly balanced between the two ends, they enjoy the up and down rhythm while their teamwork and balance are both strengthened.  …Read More

  6. How Do We Love Each Other Better

    How do we love each other better? Whether it be a spouse, a friend, or a stranger; I have thought into this question many times and believe a huge part of this is availability is the quality of being able to be used or obtained. Below are some simple tips to improve our ability to be more available. 1.    Turn off when you are off Keep technology away from you if you are not needing it. Figurat…Read More

  7. Figuring Out Forgiveness

    Picture yourself standing at the end of a road in a box canyon.  The trailhead is surrounded by rocky cliffs broken by streamers of scree, extending from gray clouds overhead to a silent, green basin around your feet.   Before you can begin the long-awaited hike up and out, you notice something next to you.  Looking at boxes of various shapes and sizesin a disorderly pile, you r…Read More

  8. 7 Ways To Help Yourself Grow

    August was probably my least favorite month when I was a child. I was bored with finding ways to entertain my little sisters. I missed my friends from school. I hungered for more time to read. I feared for my dad’s safety when he was away fighting forest fires. I grieved over the places I wished we’d explored. I worried over finding friends again when we or they had moved… again. My disconte…Read More

  9. 3 Helpful Tips When Dealing with Anniversaries of a Loss

    Endings…Anniversary of a Loss Despite spectacular rainstorms, scented trees, and rainbows of flowers, joy eludes me. My heart aches and I am oversensitive to heat one day, and cold the next. Delays or inattentive drivers activate my body’s impatience. I tire easily and can’t seem to make progress in the things I’m trying to learn. Though I’m not yet conscious of it, my body is rememberin…Read More

  10. Why a Grateful Brain Is a Giving One

    Karen Bridges shares some tips from this article by Christina Karns (posted in Colorado Counseling Association update, Jan. 29, 2018) Research on the positive impact of gratefulness has grown considerably in the last eight years. Gratefulness is defined as thankful appreciation for what one receives, which may be tangible or intangible. Researchers such as Dr. Martin E. P. Seligman (University of …Read More