1. STATUS OF MEN TODAY

    I recently had the privilege of addressing a group of 40 men at a men’s retreat at which I was asked to speak on the subject of “Brotherhood”. If you are a man, married to a man, or connected to a man in your world, this might be of interest. One of my favorite things to do is to observe people: (men in particular) In malls, at restaurants, at church, with their families and in my office as …Read More

  2. Gratitude’s Core Is Practice

    Gratitude is a guide to happiness. We all have so many things we can express gratitude for when we are asked directly; but typically the things we want to change or the things we don’t like remain on the forefront of our minds. Of course this thought pattern will lead to a more negative mindset. We have all heard that practicing something is what makes you better; and two key components are bein…Read More

  3. Introduction to Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) 

    As a therapist, my approach is somewhat eclectic, however, I draw a great deal from, and have been trained in, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). CBT helps with exploring our thought life and underlying beliefs about ourselves. This aids in better understanding distressful emotions and changing undesirable recurring behaviors. There may be times when our immediate thoughts discount other possibil…Read More

  4. Why Does Taking Care Of Your Trauma Matter?

    Today, I am going to speak about trauma. It’s tricky; you know? Trauma is one of those things that people, generally, want to forget (individually and as a society). However, although it is not an easy or popular topic, it is significant.   According to sidran.org (online resource(s) for survivors and loved ones of PTSD), “an estimated 70% of adults in the US have experienced a traumatic eve…Read More

  5. Words In Balance

    Long since banished from most playgrounds, a teeter-totter is still familiar to many of us.   Two or more children sit on opposite ends of a long board attached to a triangular fulcrum.  When the board is centered, and the children’s weights are evenly balanced between the two ends, they enjoy the up and down rhythm while their teamwork and balance are both strengthened.  …Read More

  6. Don’t Judge Yourself

    “I want to be a movie star.” “I want to be a rock star.” “I want to be a world renown author.” “I want to be the best parent.” “I want to be the best spouse.” Why not? What’s wrong with having lofty dreams? The answer - maybe nothing. Maybe you should go for your dreams. Maybe you need to stop making excuses and go for what you want. So what holds us back from going after our…Read More

  7. 3 Reasons Why People Don’t Forgive

    Most of us agree that our lives would be better if we could forgive those that have hurt us. So why don’t we? Below are three of the most common reasons people choose not to forgive. 1. I don’t want to send the message that what happened was okay. Forgiving someone does not mean you are okay with what happened. Forgiveness has little to do with the hurtful act itself. In most situations, it is…Read More

  8. The Dance of the Family Members – Do you know the steps?

    Family culture is an interesting dance. It is one we usually do not realize we are participating in. We have learned the steps over many years and our family can usually be in sync. When additions to the family come, the routine is disrupted and can cause some friction. In Zig Ziglar’s ham story, he describes how the bride in a newly married couple cut off the end of the ham before baking it. He…Read More

  9. ‘Tis The Season For Taking A Deep Breath

    “You have listened to fears, child,” said Aslan. “Come, let me breathe on you. Forget them. Are you brave again?” C.S. Lewis, Prince Caspian I recently came across this quote and I lost my breath a little. I was startled by the truth that fear doesn’t stand a chance against Alsan. At the same time I realized how fear plays a significant role in ours lives. It can especially get…Read More

  10. 3 Reasons To Turn The Other Cheek

    We’ve all heard the saying, “Pick your battles.” For some of us, there is no such thing as “picking.” We battle whenever someone crosses our line in the sand. For me, it is when I feel that my wife has treated me disrespectfully. Whether she has done it knowingly or not, I battle when I feel wronged. It has taken me a long time to learn that I do not have to battle every time my wife cro…Read More