1. The Lost Art of Listening

    If you’re like me, I have an uncanny ability to listen to so many things at the same time I don’t really hear any of them. Between the music, the phone, the TV, the computer and whatever voices I have in my head (the healthy kind, I can barely focus on another person. I notice it most when I ride my bike without my music. I hear the birds, I hear kids playing, I am much more aware of where the…Read More

  2. Figuring Out Forgiveness

    Picture yourself standing at the end of a road in a box canyon.  The trailhead is surrounded by rocky cliffs broken by streamers of scree, extending from gray clouds overhead to a silent, green basin around your feet.   Before you can begin the long-awaited hike up and out, you notice something next to you.  Looking at boxes of various shapes and sizesin a disorderly pile, you r…Read More

  3. SLEEP!!! WHO NEEDS IT??

    The answer to this nagging question is really not controversial, in fact it is quite obvious that we as humans are not nocturnal creatures. On the contrary, we were created to live and function in the daylight.  I don’t know about you, but I was not born with “headlights”, just two very light sensitive blue eyes that always function better in the day light.   I am always amazed when I hear…Read More

  4. Mind Hack : The Pink Elephant

    What happens when I tell you, “Don’t think about a pink elephant.”? You probably just thought of a pink elephant. If I instead explained to you that there were two elephants in the room, one pink and one blue, and I wanted you to do your best to keep your focus on the blue, you will most likely do better. Our minds want and need something to focus on so it’s counterproductive to tell ourse…Read More

  5. It’s Back To School Time! You know what that means? NO MORE SLEEPING IN! 

    This provides us the opportunity to talk about the importance of sleep hygiene. Sleep has become a problem of epidemic proportions in our society. I can not tell you how many people tell me that they have troubles falling asleep, staying asleep and feeling rested. Why is this so difficult? There are a few culprits for sure. Although I will always admire Thomas Edison for inventing the light bulb, …Read More

  6. A Father, a Brother and a Son.

    Are you connected? No, not connected to the internet, your phone, computer or T.V. But are you connected to the relationships that matter most in your life? Are you connected to the relationships that you need most in life? Our culture has been thrust into disconnection from relationships and connection with inanimate objects. On a daily basis; how many of us get lost staring at our phones…Read More

  7. ATTENTION WIVES!!!

    It might seem a bit risky in our current culture for a male therapist to “call out” females (wives) on a particular behavior, but please give me just a few minutes to explain?  Ladies, are you finding yourself frustrated by how unresponsive your husband is in your interactions? Or are you frequently disappointed with his harsh reactions when you approach him?  Here is the latest research on …Read More

  8. 4 Ways To Pour Into Someone In a Meaningful Way

    Everyone can use some hope in the form of a blessing. Even if things are going well in life blessings speak straight to the heart, but especially when we are faced with hard times. Maybe you know of someone who could use some encouragement, an extra dose of love, or a reminder right now. Is it your child? Your teenager? Your spouse? Your neighbor? Your sister-in-law? Here are 4 ways you can pour i…Read More

  9. Summer is here! Get your garden on!

    The summer season brings many opportunities to get outside and be active. It also isn’t too late to start a garden! There is nothing quite as calming and peaceful as gardening. If you have ever gardened before, you know the feeling of just being present with what needs to be tended to that day. There is just something miraculous about getting our hands in the dirt and actively participating with…Read More

  10. What is Self-Compassion and Why Should I Practice It?

    We have all heard about the importance of cultivating compassion for others (“Do to others as you would have them do to you”), but what about self-compassion? Compassion is a feeling of deep sympathy and sorrow for another who is stricken by misfortune, accompanied by a strong desire to alleviate the suffering. Self-compassion is turning that lens toward oneself (rather than minimizing one’s…Read More