1. Who Are You? And How Can CBT Help You?

    Our identities are made up of a number of varying factors including (but not limited to) our beliefs, our values, our personality, and our physical characteristics.  Another way we might think of identity is our self-image.  Our self-image is our mental picture of our self.  Our self-image is affected by how we view ourselves and by how we believe others view us. Additionally, our perceptions o…Read More

  2. Grounding Techniques When Life Feels Chaotic

    As I am in this new season of life living in a new state away from all of my loved ones, I find myself in one of the most difficult times of my life. This has forced me to use the very tools I teach to my clients. These tools include healthy coping strategies or as people most commonly know them healthy coping mechanisms. Most people understand what unhealthy coping strategies are more so than the…Read More

  3. A Daughter-in-Law’s Dilemma

    Holidays or anniversaries of loss often surprise me with surges of emotional memories about becoming a daughter-in-law. When I began relating to the woman who became my mother-in-law, I was a teenager eager to please, longing to gain her favor.  I felt honored -- but also afraid.  What if I failed to gain her approval? Because I struggled with feeling “in the way” and “not good enough,” …Read More

  4. The Grinch

    Last Sunday our church did a wonderful teaching on the movie adaptation of the classic Dr. Suess story "The Grinch." The heart of the teaching and the story is that only kindness, forgiveness, and love can heal a broken heart.   This leads me to think more about how our world, culture, society, and communities are becoming more and more polarized and divided. We are bombarded with picking a side,…Read More

  5. Thankful for the little things- like a stove…

    “If you want to find happiness, find gratitude.”— Steve Maraboli November is upon us and it is only fitting that we talk about thankfulness. I have had an interesting reminder lately of something I have taken for granted for years. You see, a little while ago, my oven made an interesting “pop” it was a signal that said it was no longer going to be with us and that my days of baking in th…Read More

  6. The Best Place To Be

    How often do you find yourself lost in a tornado of thoughts? Thinking about the upcoming week, next month’s travel plans, what bill is due when … an endless world of worry and what if’s. If you’re like most of us, this describes your everyday mental journey. Let’s stop the madness! The best place to be, the only place to be if we want to truly live our lives with purpose and meaning is …Read More

  7. Thoughts on “The Red Shoes”: A Woman’s Need to Keep Her Footing 

    (excerpts from Women Who Run with the Wolves by Clarissa Pinkola Este´s, PhD) “Once there was a poor motherless child who had no shoes. But the child saved cloth scraps wherever she found them and over time sewed herself a pair of red shoes. They were crude but she loved them. They made her feel rich even though her days were spent gathering food in the thorny woods until far past dark. But…Read More

  8. Being Present In Changing Seasons

    Each year, as the summer winds down, I usually find myself saying, "Boy the summer sure went by fast!" If you have kids, this feels especially true. But, no matter what, when the temperature cools down and we get a little less sun each day, we have to say goodbye to what just was and welcome what's to come. A change of seasons and change, in general, can draw up past disappointments and natural fe…Read More

  9. How Puberty May Affect Your Teen

    The hormonal waves are crashing.  The mood swings might cause whiplash.  The overwhelming sense that this child’s body is dictating their whole world. It’s puberty. I decided to write about some challenges girls face in puberty because I have witnessed the distress in both girls, and their families, during these erratic years of development.  Thus, I want to speak briefly about some p…Read More

  10. The Power of Words

    The school year has started and the assignments are starting to pile up. Perhaps your kids are wondering if they like their teachers or even if they can make it through some of their tough classes. It is important for us to remember the power of words. Dr. Masaru Emoto did a study on water and the impact of words. Certain words were emitted over water droplets and then photos were taken. The resul…Read More