1. Reacting to the “Button Pusher”

    Back in the day, people used to write letters to each other. It would take 2-3 days or even a week before the message arrived. Knowing the time lapse that took place, I would imagine people might have taken a few moments to pen their thoughts. This would be especially true if they were angry about something. The point is, I'm thinking there was probably more thought into the letters. In the age of…Read More

  2. How To Connect With Your Teenager

    Waiting in a pickup line outside the school, I admired the sunset-tinted clouds and watched students emerging from the high school.  Noticing movement in my rearview mirror, I glanced up to see a woman pull to a stop behind me.  She hurriedly reached for one of the piles of paperstacked on her dash and began to sort.  Her son must have been watching for her, because he climbed i…Read More

  3. Self Harm – Help For The Parents

    Finding out your child/teen is engaging in self-harming behaviors can throw any parent into a whirlwind of emotions- fear, anger, sadness, and confusion (just to name a few).  Understanding why your child would harm their body can be very difficult.   I intend to shed a little light on the why here, but I, primarily, would like to give some feedback on how you, as the parent of someone w…Read More

  4. Your best Marriage

    Valentines Day has come and gone. Perhaps you had a wonderful hallmark-level evening filled with rose petals and chocolate, or perhaps yours reflected a bit more reality that may have included sick kids, busy work schedules, sports practices and total exhaustion. Maybe you think it’s just a silly holiday and you spend everyday making sure your valentine is fully appreciated or something like tha…Read More

  5. STATUS OF MEN TODAY

    I recently had the privilege of addressing a group of 40 men at a men’s retreat at which I was asked to speak on the subject of “Brotherhood”. If you are a man, married to a man, or connected to a man in your world, this might be of interest. One of my favorite things to do is to observe people: (men in particular) In malls, at restaurants, at church, with their families and in my office as …Read More

  6. Introduction to Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) 

    As a therapist, my approach is somewhat eclectic, however, I draw a great deal from, and have been trained in, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). CBT helps with exploring our thought life and underlying beliefs about ourselves. This aids in better understanding distressful emotions and changing undesirable recurring behaviors. There may be times when our immediate thoughts discount other possibil…Read More

  7. Why Does Taking Care Of Your Trauma Matter?

    Today, I am going to speak about trauma. It’s tricky; you know? Trauma is one of those things that people, generally, want to forget (individually and as a society). However, although it is not an easy or popular topic, it is significant.   According to sidran.org (online resource(s) for survivors and loved ones of PTSD), “an estimated 70% of adults in the US have experienced a traumatic eve…Read More

  8. Words In Balance

    Long since banished from most playgrounds, a teeter-totter is still familiar to many of us.   Two or more children sit on opposite ends of a long board attached to a triangular fulcrum.  When the board is centered, and the children’s weights are evenly balanced between the two ends, they enjoy the up and down rhythm while their teamwork and balance are both strengthened.  …Read More

  9. Don’t Judge Yourself

    “I want to be a movie star.” “I want to be a rock star.” “I want to be a world renown author.” “I want to be the best parent.” “I want to be the best spouse.” Why not? What’s wrong with having lofty dreams? The answer - maybe nothing. Maybe you should go for your dreams. Maybe you need to stop making excuses and go for what you want. So what holds us back from going after our…Read More

  10. 3 Reasons Why People Don’t Forgive

    Most of us agree that our lives would be better if we could forgive those that have hurt us. So why don’t we? Below are three of the most common reasons people choose not to forgive. 1. I don’t want to send the message that what happened was okay. Forgiving someone does not mean you are okay with what happened. Forgiveness has little to do with the hurtful act itself. In most situations, it is…Read More