1. Thoughts on “The Red Shoes”: A Woman’s Need to Keep Her Footing 

    (excerpts from Women Who Run with the Wolves by Clarissa Pinkola Este´s, PhD) “Once there was a poor motherless child who had no shoes. But the child saved cloth scraps wherever she found them and over time sewed herself a pair of red shoes. They were crude but she loved them. They made her feel rich even though her days were spent gathering food in the thorny woods until far past dark. But…Read More

  2. Your best Marriage

    Valentines Day has come and gone. Perhaps you had a wonderful hallmark-level evening filled with rose petals and chocolate, or perhaps yours reflected a bit more reality that may have included sick kids, busy work schedules, sports practices and total exhaustion. Maybe you think it’s just a silly holiday and you spend everyday making sure your valentine is fully appreciated or something like tha…Read More

  3. Words In Balance

    Long since banished from most playgrounds, a teeter-totter is still familiar to many of us.   Two or more children sit on opposite ends of a long board attached to a triangular fulcrum.  When the board is centered, and the children’s weights are evenly balanced between the two ends, they enjoy the up and down rhythm while their teamwork and balance are both strengthened.  …Read More

  4. Don’t Judge Yourself

    “I want to be a movie star.” “I want to be a rock star.” “I want to be a world renown author.” “I want to be the best parent.” “I want to be the best spouse.” Why not? What’s wrong with having lofty dreams? The answer - maybe nothing. Maybe you should go for your dreams. Maybe you need to stop making excuses and go for what you want. So what holds us back from going after our…Read More

  5. 3 Reasons Why People Don’t Forgive

    Most of us agree that our lives would be better if we could forgive those that have hurt us. So why don’t we? Below are three of the most common reasons people choose not to forgive. 1. I don’t want to send the message that what happened was okay. Forgiving someone does not mean you are okay with what happened. Forgiveness has little to do with the hurtful act itself. In most situations, it is…Read More

  6. The Dance of the Family Members – Do you know the steps?

    Family culture is an interesting dance. It is one we usually do not realize we are participating in. We have learned the steps over many years and our family can usually be in sync. When additions to the family come, the routine is disrupted and can cause some friction. In Zig Ziglar’s ham story, he describes how the bride in a newly married couple cut off the end of the ham before baking it. He…Read More

  7. 3 Reasons To Turn The Other Cheek

    We’ve all heard the saying, “Pick your battles.” For some of us, there is no such thing as “picking.” We battle whenever someone crosses our line in the sand. For me, it is when I feel that my wife has treated me disrespectfully. Whether she has done it knowingly or not, I battle when I feel wronged. It has taken me a long time to learn that I do not have to battle every time my wife cro…Read More

  8. SLEEP!!! WHO NEEDS IT??

    The answer to this nagging question is really not controversial, in fact it is quite obvious that we as humans are not nocturnal creatures. On the contrary, we were created to live and function in the daylight.  I don’t know about you, but I was not born with “headlights”, just two very light sensitive blue eyes that always function better in the day light.   I am always amazed when I hear…Read More

  9. ATTENTION WIVES!!!

    It might seem a bit risky in our current culture for a male therapist to “call out” females (wives) on a particular behavior, but please give me just a few minutes to explain?  Ladies, are you finding yourself frustrated by how unresponsive your husband is in your interactions? Or are you frequently disappointed with his harsh reactions when you approach him?  Here is the latest research on …Read More

  10. Can Animals Improve Your Mental Health?

    Since last summer I have gained another furry friend and am excited for our summer adventures. I adopted a puppy with Colorado Rescue Tails named Roxy. Through personal discovery, client’s stories, and some reading I have learned how therapeutic our pets can be. Pets can help with motivation for exercise, socializing, loneliness, and many other things. Many studies have shown a correlation with …Read More