1. 3 Reasons To Turn The Other Cheek

    We’ve all heard the saying, “Pick your battles.” For some of us, there is no such thing as “picking.” We battle whenever someone crosses our line in the sand. For me, it is when I feel that my wife has treated me disrespectfully. Whether she has done it knowingly or not, I battle when I feel wronged. It has taken me a long time to learn that I do not have to battle every time my wife cro…Read More

  2. The Lost Art of Listening

    If you’re like me, I have an uncanny ability to listen to so many things at the same time I don’t really hear any of them. Between the music, the phone, the TV, the computer and whatever voices I have in my head (the healthy kind, I can barely focus on another person. I notice it most when I ride my bike without my music. I hear the birds, I hear kids playing, I am much more aware of where the…Read More

  3. Mind Hack : The Pink Elephant

    What happens when I tell you, “Don’t think about a pink elephant.”? You probably just thought of a pink elephant. If I instead explained to you that there were two elephants in the room, one pink and one blue, and I wanted you to do your best to keep your focus on the blue, you will most likely do better. Our minds want and need something to focus on so it’s counterproductive to tell ourse…Read More

  4. It’s Back To School Time! You know what that means? NO MORE SLEEPING IN! 

    This provides us the opportunity to talk about the importance of sleep hygiene. Sleep has become a problem of epidemic proportions in our society. I can not tell you how many people tell me that they have troubles falling asleep, staying asleep and feeling rested. Why is this so difficult? There are a few culprits for sure. Although I will always admire Thomas Edison for inventing the light bulb, …Read More

  5. A Father, a Brother and a Son.

    Are you connected? No, not connected to the internet, your phone, computer or T.V. But are you connected to the relationships that matter most in your life? Are you connected to the relationships that you need most in life? Our culture has been thrust into disconnection from relationships and connection with inanimate objects. On a daily basis; how many of us get lost staring at our phones…Read More

  6. ATTENTION WIVES!!!

    It might seem a bit risky in our current culture for a male therapist to “call out” females (wives) on a particular behavior, but please give me just a few minutes to explain?  Ladies, are you finding yourself frustrated by how unresponsive your husband is in your interactions? Or are you frequently disappointed with his harsh reactions when you approach him?  Here is the latest research on …Read More

  7. What Is Self-Care, and Why Is It Important?

    “I feel like I’m doing everything around here.” “I feel taken advantage of.” “I don’t feel supported by you.” “All you do is nag me and tell me what I’m not doing or what I’m doing I’m doing poorly.” Can you relate to any of those sentiments? Agreeing on roles in the home is one of the most challenging things husbands and wives face, especially when they become parents. I…Read More

  8. Feeding Your Soul and Your Family

    Often when I talk about Soul Care with clients, I use the analogy of a parent on an airplane needing to put on their oxygen mask before putting on their child’s. Soul Care is the same idea. As husbands, wives, moms and dads we need to be able to serve our families. In order to serve our families, we need have something left in the tank. Finding a weekly or even a daily activity that feeds your s…Read More

  9. Expectations vs. Acceptance

    I recently went on a backpacking trip with my dad and brother. We had talked about the trip for the last six months. The trip was a celebration of my dad’s 60th birthday. We had all the necessary ingredients for a successful trip: maps, fly rods, tobacco pipes and some of Jack’s finest bourbon. Well, the trip did not have the start I had expected. We had to change our route the day of because …Read More