We often hear from individuals as well as many couples that the level of INTIMACY in their marriage has dissipated over time. This is obviously troubling to any committed spouse, especially since an overall desire for closeness and connectedness is one of the main reasons we marry in the first place. So in light of the fact that so many couples are yearning for intimacy, yet missing out on that ve…Read More

  2. Some Insights Into Self-harming Behaviors

    On a regular basis, I am presented with folks who are bewildered when faced with a loved ones self-harming behaviors. “Why would they do this to themselves?”  “Why won’t they just stop?” “This type of behavior just doesn’t make any sense!”  These are all questions and exclamations I hear on a regular basis.  Thus, I would like to attempt to provide a bit of insight into what sel…Read More

  3. Running towards something v. Running away from something

    Have you ever asked yourself if you are running towards something or running away from something?  It’s a simple question, but possibly a profound answer.  All too often, we spend our energies running out of fear.  We run aimlessly away from the thing that we believe is going to hurt us. The visual I get is one that is found in most movie chase scenes.  By the way, most of those scenes inclu…Read More

  4. The Importance of Compromise | Your Marriage Counselor Can Help!

    There are three points I want to address regarding compromise.  The first is the importance of self-care.  I do not recommend an individual compromise their own wellbeing just to appease their partner.  A healthy marriage requires two relatively healthy individuals.  In order to be healthy individuals we need to do things to take care of ourselves.  I refer to this practice as self-care.  If…Read More

  5. Where is Your Gaze Taking You? | Marriage Counseling Fort Collins

    I can mostly recall the scene on the ski slopes that day.  A mother and child were lying directly in front of me while they fidgeted with their ski gear.  I remember thinking, “Uh oh.  They’re right where I want to go.”  The next thing I remember is the ski patrolman telling my parents that I needed to go to the hospital. I was seven years old and just took a day playing hooky with my fa…Read More