1. How To Have Successful Conversation In Marriage

    The most commonly referenced goal I hear from couples in counseling is their desire to have better communication. It doesn’t take me long to see why they are failing -  they don’t follow the basic steps to a conversation. They argue about different subjects and don’t do a good job of understanding one another. Follow these six steps to have affective and successful conversations: Identify t…Read More

  2. We Have Three Brains, Not One!

    That's right, we actually have three brains! The Primal, Limbic and Neocortex: these three brains work together, as one, to keep us alive. Each has a very distinct role and function, working interdependently to help us survive. I first learned of the Triune Brian when I was working for a non-profit, which specialized in helping at risk youth. I was a young counselor and became overwhelmed by how s…Read More

  3. What Is Self-Care, and Why Is It Important?

    “I feel like I’m doing everything around here.” “I feel taken advantage of.” “I don’t feel supported by you.” “All you do is nag me and tell me what I’m not doing or what I’m doing I’m doing poorly.” Can you relate to any of those sentiments? Agreeing on roles in the home is one of the most challenging things husbands and wives face, especially when they become parents. I…Read More

  4. 5 Ways to Support Your Daughter’s Healthy Body Image

    Once the new school supplies have been purchased, the new teachers have been identified and the new classrooms have been located; let’s remember that our kids are still navigating some tough stuff in their everyday lives and in the halls of their school buildings. Although I work with females on reconstructing healthy body image on a regular basis, I had hoped I still had a few years before nega…Read More

  5. The Marital Mirror

    I remember those first couple years of marriage and how challenging it was to have someone so close to me giving me feedback or criticism on a daily basis.  Up until that point of my life there hadn’t been anyone that knew me like my wife did/does or had the opportunity to voice their opinion of me so frequently.  It was during those first years that I coined the phrase, “The Marital Mirror.…Read More

  6. “Supposed To”

    Each of us are running our own race. We have a path set out before us that has mountains and valleys and everything in between. We are surrounded by distractions and busyness that keeps our mind racing toward what is next. Often times, the words that appear are “supposed to”. They can be used as a way to put unrealistic expectations on ourselves or others. They can also be used to describe how…Read More

  7. Find Joy and Contentment In All Circumstances

    “Think positive….” “choose joy…” “look on the bright side…”  “find the silver lining…” Sometimes when I hear the mantras of the power of positive thinking I am reminded of an old Saturday Night Live skit where a character (Stuart Smalley) is going through self-affirmations while looking in the mirror, saying, “I’m good enough, I’m smart enough, and doggone it, people…Read More

  8. Counseling for Life Transitions – Leaving The Toxic Workplace

    Have you ever been in a job you feel is sucking the life out of you? You stay out of fear, obligation maybe, or you just feel there is nowhere else for you to work? I am coming to realize most of us have been in this situation before, and it is ultimately not healthy! The toxic environment in which you work will not be confined to the workplace. Gradually it will leach into every aspect of your li…Read More

  9. The Lost Art of Listening

    If you’re like me, I have an uncanny ability to listen to so many things at the same time I don’t really hear any of them. Between the music, the phone, the TV, the computer and whatever voices I have in my head (the healthy kind :)), I can barely focus on another person. I notice it most when I ride my bike without my music. I hear the birds, I hear kids playing, I am much more aware of where…Read More

  10. Just Say No

    Text message reads: N: The Baker’s want to know if we can do dinner with them next Friday. J: Sure. Wait! We have Isaac’s football game. How about Saturday? N: No. That won’t work because we are attending the banquet. J: Friday in two weeks? N: No. We’ve committed to help at Jessica’s school dance. J: Crap. I guess tell them we’ll let them know when we can find a time. Sound familiar? …Read More