1. 3 Reasons To Turn The Other Cheek

    We’ve all heard the saying, “Pick your battles.” For some of us, there is no such thing as “picking.” We battle whenever someone crosses our line in the sand. For me, it is when I feel that my wife has treated me disrespectfully. Whether she has done it knowingly or not, I battle when I feel wronged. It has taken me a long time to learn that I do not have to battle every time my wife cro…Read More

  2. SLEEP!!! WHO NEEDS IT??

    The answer to this nagging question is really not controversial, in fact it is quite obvious that we as humans are not nocturnal creatures. On the contrary, we were created to live and function in the daylight.  I don’t know about you, but I was not born with “headlights”, just two very light sensitive blue eyes that always function better in the day light.   I am always amazed when I hear…Read More

  3. There is still time…

    I heard something very interesting the other day. Did you know James Michener did not start writing books until he was 40 years old? Laura Ingalls Wilder did not become successful as a writer until she was 60. The actor Samuel L Jackson became successful at 43, and Morgan Freeman at 52. Did you know that even if you started exercising at 80 years old, you could still benefit from it? Studies prove…Read More

  4. A Father, a Brother and a Son.

    Are you connected? No, not connected to the internet, your phone, computer or T.V. But are you connected to the relationships that matter most in your life? Are you connected to the relationships that you need most in life? Our culture has been thrust into disconnection from relationships and connection with inanimate objects. On a daily basis; how many of us get lost staring at our phones…Read More

  5. ATTENTION WIVES!!!

    It might seem a bit risky in our current culture for a male therapist to “call out” females (wives) on a particular behavior, but please give me just a few minutes to explain?  Ladies, are you finding yourself frustrated by how unresponsive your husband is in your interactions? Or are you frequently disappointed with his harsh reactions when you approach him?  Here is the latest research on …Read More

  6. 4 Ways To Pour Into Someone In a Meaningful Way

    Everyone can use some hope in the form of a blessing. Even if things are going well in life blessings speak straight to the heart, but especially when we are faced with hard times. Maybe you know of someone who could use some encouragement, an extra dose of love, or a reminder right now. Is it your child? Your teenager? Your spouse? Your neighbor? Your sister-in-law? Here are 4 ways you can pour i…Read More

  7. COMMITMENT, THE GLUE THAT HOLDS US TOGETHER IN MARRIAGE!

    It seems that so often today the idea of COMMITMENT in marriage has become somewhat of a negative term. I would like to propose commitment as something positive and rewarding. As I consider Genesis 2:24 where we read: “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become now flesh” This word “unite” is used in place of the word “cleave”…Read More

  8. 8 Things To Consider When A Teen Has Two Homes

    Perhaps your family faces a situation where the child or children of the family have two homes. The transition of moving from one home to the other can be difficult on the child and as they grow into their teen years, it can be both difficult and negatively advantageous at the same time. The best circumstance for all parties involved is to try to co-parent. As some of you read this, you may be fee…Read More

  9. MARRIED, BUT FEELING ALONE??

    MARRIED, BUT FEELING ALONE?? Sadly, this is a frequently used expression as we work with couples in counseling. Married, yes, but yet experiencing a disturbing sense of “isolation”. Isolation is the opposite of “Intimacy”, so instead of experiencing a deep connection with a spouse, too often couples have lost ground over time and end up feeling lonely, separated and solitary even while yet…Read More

  10. How to use ‘I Feel’ statements to grow your marriage

    “I feel …. you’re the problem” I laugh sometimes when I hear clients try to use “I feel” statements. I’ve even heard someone say, “I feel that you’re an idiot.” This is obviously not the intended use of the phrase “I feel.” In fact, this is just another way of insulting or hurting someone. In The Marriage Program we talk about the use of I feel statements as a way to produc…Read More